Time Out! Mommy Needs 5!

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I share with my one on one coaching clients the need to stop trying to do everything and be everything to everyone. This do-it-all mindset typically takes us away from what our most important priorities are. Any mother that I have coached, including myself, can agree that her family is her top priority. She wants to be better for them. She wants to do more with them. Hell, she just wants to stop yelling at them all the time! I teach that self-care is a non-negotiable tool for modern woman. We all wear so many hats and have so many areas in which we want to excel that we rarely take time to just be. I am planning on sharing bits of wisdom for the next 30 days and calling it my “Mommy Needs 5” series. My hope is that you take 5 minutes from your busy life to read, enjoy and possibly laugh while reading my posts. Feel free to comment and share your own stories. I would love to hear them! I know I am not alone.

5 reasons my house does not look like a page from a Pottery Barn catalog but more like a tornado just ripped through

  1. I have a kid! What is it with the little ones and dropping little piles of papers and “collections” everywhere? My daughter comes home everyday with glorious “art” and leaves it all over the kitchen island. She also seems to accumulate small collections. She collects rocks from the playground at school which find their way into the kitchen, the bathtub, her room, the laundry and my coat pockets. I also found out in a very unique way last week that she had started collecting dry corn from the cornstalks used to adorn our posts in the front of the house. I always get a bit concerned when she calls me from the bathroom and says, “Mom come here, there is something weird.” I am thinking maybe she had a strange poop or found some oddity on her body. Nope, this time it was a small green leafy stem popping out of the overflow drain hole in her sink. Apparently, sink overflow holes are the perfect environment to grow corn. Yes, I pulled on the odd green stem and kept pulling until I found a piece of dry corn had evolved into a growing plant with a root system in her bathroom sink. Ewwwww!
  2. I get mail! The mail, the never-ending mail. Along with all of my daughter’s “art” and school papers there is never a shortage of some type of flyer, bill, newspaper ad on my kitchen island. I am pretty sure that is not what the island was intended for. Holla if you hear me with this one!
  3. I have a husband! He is a master of what I lovingly call Lou-droppings (Lou is the Hubs) these droppings include socks on the floor next to the bed, random packs of screws and blue tape on the bathroom counter from work, folded up papers, reciepts, pens, and clothes in random places on the floor or hung over the bannister leading up the stairs. I L-O-V-E this man so much and I have accepted this reality as one of his adorable quirks.
  4. I have a dog! Oh, Lucy! We bathe you, we walk you, we play with you and we buy you toys, too many dang toys! She is worse than my daughter with leaving her bones and fuzzy friends strewn about the floor. My personal fave is when she leaves her bone in the middle of the hallway or the path to the bathroom in the middle if the night. It is a blessing that I still have my ankles for all of the times I have stepped on one of these bones.
  5. I have a cat! My cat Frank is literally the coolest cat on the planet. Frank, my 14 year-old Frank, my dear, sweet, fuzzy first baby. Why must you chuck up a hairball or other miscellaneous items that you got into on the staircase so that I have no choice to step in it without warning on my way down the stairs? Also, what the hell did you eat? One poop from you can clear the basement, let alone a room! Love you buddy.

Please feel free to e-mail me at missy@missygrovescoach.com and let me know if there are any topics you would like me to address because this is all for you! I thought you may get a kick out of “Mommy Needs 5” because frankly, what Mommy doesn’t need just 5 frigging minutes a day to herself?

All I need is within me now!

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I’m not going to lie to you my friend, life is  messy and shit gets real around here. When I learned this mantra from my coach  I did not fully trust that it was true. How could I possibly have all the answers? The truth is I don’t have all the answers I need for the world around me but I have found with practice that I certainly have all the answers I need for myself within me. Somewhere along the line I went from a stubborn, no nonsense leader of a little girl (ask my Mom) to an insecure young adult that questioned my own worth, to a an adult who embodied a bit of both. When do we stop trusting ourselves? The answers for me came from within, but it took me making the time to really care enough about myself to ask. When was the last time you loved yourself enough to look within for the answers you are seeking?

Live with Grace

Missy

The quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life.

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Think about that statement for a moment… It is our thinking that determines the quality of our lives.

Some may say, “No, the world is cruel to me!” Is the world cruel to you or is it how you react to it? I have learned one truth in the past year of deep personal development, and that is that I am completely responsible for my thoughts. I can choose how I want to respond to the world. For many years I responded as a victim thinking subconsciously that others would pity me and my situation, but folks rarely did. That thought pattern left me a victim where life was constantly happening TO me. What I realize now, by shifting my mentality to that of full responsibility for my actions, is the life is actually happening FOR me. We can only control what we think, say, feel and do. When you recognize that your way of thinking is a choice a whole new world opens up. A world of endless possibilities for you to enjoy the journey of life. If you are completely responsible for your thoughts no matter what life tosses in you path you have a choice.

Choose the life you want to live and then take full responsibilty for making it happen!

Live beautifully my Friend,

Missy

Why would I get a coach?

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What is a life coach and why could I use one? All successful people and athletes have a mentor or a coach that challenges them to dig deeper and consistently grow. Why not you? Here are the top 5 benefits you get from a coaching experience.

1. A guide who inspires you to look inside yourself so that you can understand what limiting beliefs are holding you back from you ultimate goals.

2. Your coaching time will be YOUR time to work on you!

3. A mentor who works beside you to teach you the tools to create the life you have always wanted.

4. A person who will hold you accountable for doing the work of implementing the tools.

5. Inspiration, tips and guidance to keep you on the path you have created.

Starting October 1st I will be accepting 2 one on one coaching clients for 5 FREE coaching sessions! Please e-mail me if you would like my guidance to get you on the path to the life you truly desire!

Enoughness

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Enoughness is a state of being satisfied and content with who you are, where you are right now. For a type A, go-getting people pleaser this feeling of contentment is a tall order. It almost seems counterintuitive to everything I strive for, but this practice is essential to a happy life.

Autumn is a time of year when I feel very reflective and I start to slow down from 9 months of craziness. Right now I am experiencing the desire to slow down and reflect but work and life have different plans for me. I am feeling the struggle. So what does this have to do with the practice of enoughness? It means I actually need to put a practice into place where I take time to acknowledge my enoughness. I have to give myself permission to slow down, set my alarm on my phone for 20 minutes, lay here and be present, be enough. I hope that one day my practice will be more of a lifestyle but for today here is what I will do:

1. Set down my phone! If I had to guess I check my phone for texts, e-mails, calls etc over 100 times per day. How can I be present if I’m always somewhere in cyberspace?

2. Enjoy the silence. In my 20 minutes I will be quiet in my body and mind. (This usually only works when I am sleeping but I am working on it!)

3. Acknowledge and Accept that I cannot do everything or please everyone. I set myself up for failure by ignoring this concept sometimes. I am not promoting  apathy but be kind and realistic with your expectations for yourself.

4. Take a walk or a bike ride and enjoy the crispness in the air and the subtle change of colors in the trees. Getting outdoors and getting my body moving instantly put me in a better mood.

How are you enjoying your enoughness today?

Missy

4 Tips for creating self love

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If you can truly love and accept who you are you are free. You are free to love, play, laugh and experience what is in front of you, instead of worrying about what is going on inside of you. I lived for so many years in my head. I would compare myself to other people constantly. I would worry about how I looked especially if I hadn’t been working out everyday and eating properly. I would get jealous of people who laughed more than me or looked like they were having more fun. I wasn’t at peace with who I was inside so I would avoid the discomfort of looking at inward. If this is familiar try the tips below and start on your path to freedom and self love.

1. Get a coach!

A huge turning point for me was when I was recommended to a life coach. A coach is different than a therapist, they are a mentor, they are a guide to alignment in whatever area you are out of whack.

2. Take time for you!

With a full time career, being a mother and a wife, time for me was almost non-existent. I thought being selfless was part of the deal and was noble but all it lead me to was burnout. You have to be abundant within yourself in order to give to others.

3. Forgive yourself and others

I went through a program, lead by my coach, that allowed me a weekend of self reflection. One of the most pivotal points for me that weekend was a guided meditation that allowed me to go back in my mind to a point in my childhood where I had been bullied and forgive.

4. Accept your imperfections

When you are willing to let go of the myth of perfection and the way things should be a huge burden will be lifted from your shoulders. It takes so much energy to beat yourself up use your precious energy for something beautiful.

Love yourself today!

Missy